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I'm Ase Wang, And I Froze 12 Of My Eggs Because I'm Not Ready For A Baby Yet. AMA!

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Ase Wang
VIP 268 days ago


Hello DxD community! I’m Ase Wang. I’ll be replying to all your comments on Friday 2 November 2018, at 1 pm.

Proof: https://www.instagram.com/p/BoazMLKF6q2/?hl=en&taken-by=ase_wang. You can find more information about me on my Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/asewangofficial/

Background: I froze my eggs this year (at the age of 36) because I'm single and not planning to have a baby immediately. I also knew that I would not be able to have kids naturally due to my low egg reserves, which is why I decided to go through the painful, expensive, and emotional process. Freezing my eggs allowed me to keep my options open for when I'm finally ready to embrace motherhood.

On 29 June, 2018, I had 12 eggs extracted from my body and frozen, and made a video to document my journey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vW2zyomWpBI. In Singapore, single women do not have the option to freeze their eggs, and I hope to change that by raising awareness through this video and AMA session.

Since I started sharing my journey, I’ve gotten hundreds of DMs on my Instagram from women in Singapore and all over the world, who either can’t have a baby naturally, or who’ve extracted eggs, or who don’t have enough money to do it. A lot of the stories were encouraging, and some were really sad. It has been overwhelming — I wasn’t expecting this kind of response.

Leave a comment below asking me anything about egg freezing, or questions related to:

1. Why I did it
2. Why I decided to share my journey so openly
3. Your options in Singapore as a single woman if your egg reserve is running low
4. Why egg freezing is such a taboo subject in Singapore
5. Why I need to go for more rounds even after harvesting 5 eggs
6. What it was like getting painful hormone shots in the stomach at a Bangkok hospital to help stimulate egg flow
7. The side effects of egg freezing and hormonal treatment

#Pregnancy #Gynaecology
Comments (54)
Anonymous
263 days ago

Hi I'm Jeeyan, DxD's content editor. Ase will be coming on live Friday, 2 November at 1 pm to answer all your questions. Feel free to start leaving your questions and comments for Ase below!

@Ase, thanks for doing this DxD AMA :) My questions for you are:

1. It was very brave of you to make the decision to go to Bangkok to have your eggs frozen! Do you think that the Singapore government should be more supportive of single women who want to go for egg freezing in Singapore, especially with our dismal fertility rate, and women getting married later?

2. Also, why do you think it is that not many women are aware about, or even consider egg freezing? 

I 100 percent believe that Singapore should allow this.


Why not? Women are the future, so if our birth rate in Singapore is going down what does that tell the government?

We live in a modern world today, isn't Singapore changing our city to be modern? Then our people need to be treated the same way.

I personally think it's very cruel to do this to women especially those who suffer.

Too many women in Singapore aren't aware of this because our government has not educated us about it and does not allow us to have it done here.

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Denise
VIP 237 days ago

Hi, I'm Denise from the DxD content team! I'll be moderating this AMA today!

Thanks @Ase for doing this AMA and sharing your journey with us!

Looking forward to reading all the answers to the questions that we have now. Do keep those questions coming in!

Mezclita
237 days ago

Hi Ase, I was just thinking I had a question for you, then saw this!

1. What are/were you like hormonally? (normally, so before and during treatment?) I’m asking because for myself I can get really “dramatic” periods - even breaking out into rashes all over my body from being in that time of the month! So, not sure if being pumped full of hormones would be too much, physically and emotionally... 

2. How did you feel it went for you? Worse or better than you thought?

Hi!

Hormonally i was up and down ( the first time ) the second time was much better . But it's all manageable , think of it this way: women do this all the time. We were built to give birth, that's a lot harder if you ask me than a few injections a day :)

As for your rash, I'm sure your doctor can advise you on how to treat that.

I dealt with my hormone changes by meditation, that helped me a lot and staying away from stressful situations.

My first time, I was going through a breakup so I was dealing with a lot at the time. But I still managed to do it!

Siew Ling
262 days ago
Thanks for this! I’m 39 and considering egg freezing myself. I’ve read that the hormone injections make your emotions go all wonky though. What was it like going through the hormone injections? 
Soonie
261 days ago
Same boat here! Would love to get a reply to this question!
I went to the hospital every day to get them done. It was fine, it was a bit tiring, but overall, if you have no fear of injections, you will be fine. As for the wonky mood swings, it's okay, it's not as if you will go around murdering people hahaha! If that's your only concern, you're fine!
Cranberry7
252 days ago
I didn't know that you could choose to freeze your eggs! After I saw this I went to look it up, and apparently it's not a regulated industry and clinics don't meet their own industry standards...


So my question is, what kind of things helped you make your decision to do it in that particular hospital in Bangkok? What was it that made you feel reassured despite the risks involved?

Thanks!

Mel
251 days ago
Yeah how do you pick some place that doesn't seem dodgy but is reliable and safe?
I went to a good hospital with a good reputation and a doctor with a very good referral. That's very important. A doctor who believes in you and trusts that you can do it. I don't think the risks are that major. It's a small product with a big effect.
Renee
252 days ago
How did you deal with the painful shots in the stomach? I'm so scared of needles and don't know if I have the strength to go through something like that. I'd really like to know what your management strategies were. What went through your mind that kept you going?
Ahhhhh, this is a good one cause I'm exactly like you. In fact, I might be worse .... I faint sometimes with blood tests.

Honestly I just had to suck it up and pony on up and take it like a champ.

After a few days, you will be better with it. Please don't worry about that, I did it.

You need to tell yourself that needles suck but they are also the key to your biggest gift in life. We just got to handle it, babe!

PandaEyesJen
252 days ago
Hi Ase, what made you decide to check your egg reserves? It's not really something that people think about unless they are married and want kids right?


Now I'm wondering if I should check anyway...

Please check cause it's your body and you have the right to know.

I got checked cause a friend told me I should check to see as I'm at that age right now where kids are an option. Please check! It's research to know your body better.

ShinyShinn
237 days ago
Thanks for this - I wished they would cover this in sex ed in school... it's not like having kids is just learning about anatomy.......

What do you have to do to get your egg reserves checked? What happens when you see the gynae?


They will do an ultrasound and blood test on your period and off to see how many eggs they can see, and from your blood, they will test all your levels of hormones etc.              
Ivy Chen
238 days ago

Does freezing eggs mean that I will be losing eggs that I might need in the future? Will this process decrease my chance of conceiving naturally someday?

No! Not at all. You are just storing some, just in case. You're putting your gold in a safe till you want to use it. In fact, doctors still tell you to keep having sex and try naturally. Freezing your eggs is just a backup.
Bella_W
252 days ago
This is something I thought of as well, but I read that the success rate of conceiving a baby from a frozen egg is not good. Why did you still decide to undergo all this risk and pain?
Because I had no choice, I don't have a lot of eggs and convincing naturally will be hard for me so my doctor advised me to get as many out with hormonal help (the daily injections) and store them till I'm ready to have a baby, which I'm not right now. I'm buying time.
Sunny
252 days ago

do you think checking egg reserves is something that everyone should think of whether they are married or not?

Chocolatemilk
237 days ago

You got me thinking about when people say - "You will want kids eventually, and by then, it'll be too late"... 

Not sure if this is relevant but I don't really know if I want kids. It just seems to be something that people expect women to do. But I am still worried. I found myself asking, what if I do want kids later on and find that I can't have any.

Anyway, freezing my eggs seems like something a kiasu Singaporean would do - and well, I honestly can say if I do change my mind about kids in the future, I would want a decent shot at it, if you know what I mean.

Could you comment on how you knew you wanted kids and how that thought led you to getting your eggs frozen?

Thank you!

Honestly I am still a bit like you. I love kids a lot but I'm also worried about it. I ask myself too, what if it's not for me? So I froze my eggs so I wouldn't have any regrets in life. I still don't know honestly if I'll have kids, if I'm 40 and still have no baby daddy...I'm not sure i want to have a baby. So I'm just covering my regrets in case! Better to have an option than none at all if you can afford it.
Chocolatemilk
237 days ago
wow thanks for answering! This makes me feel better about making a decision. I just don't want to regret it.

What would you do with your eggs if you decide not to have kids in the end?

I would store them until they expire. If I don't have kids, I don't think I would want to donate my eggs.
Wu Huo
253 days ago
Would frozen eggs still be able to be fertilised after a few years? Thanks for helping.
Claire To
253 days ago
I was also meaning to ask! Pls answer!!
Cathy Lai
253 days ago
Hope you could answer this!
Yes, for up to 5 or 10 years, from what I understand.
Kim Khoo
255 days ago
Hi everyone. How was it like getting those hormone shots? Like what were the side effects? Was it painful?  Hope u could answer! 
The injections weren't that painful, I'm just really scared of needles that's why. If you're not scared of needles, this is a walk in the park, your moods might swing, but you will know where it's coming from and you just have to remind yourself.
April Hong
253 days ago
When would be the best time to freeze my eggs? Pls help
The younger you are, the better. Start now!
Conzy
237 days ago
What's the age limit beyond which doctors will say it's not worth it? or is it a case by case thing? It's a bit depressing thinking of these "expiry dates" :( 
Kim Guo
253 days ago
How many eggs do I need to store to ensure pregnancy?
No one ever knows that...you can only tell when you want to create an embryo if your eggs are good enough. That's another step in this journey! But the more eggs the better chance.
AngbaoCat
251 days ago
Actually, I don't quite understand why it's not legal to freeze eggs in Singapore.. It's not like I'm going to get pregnant without an other half to contribute... it seems more of a bid to buy time right?


And even though people are saying it's a gamble cos you don't know if it will work, shouldn't I be given the freedom to take that gamble? The only thing is that it's an expensive process and I can't afford it. Honestly, I'd rather do it in Singapore if it was available here cos I'd feel it was safer in a way..

Anyway, after all the rant haha, I want to know why you chose to take that gamble? What went through your mind I mean like, it's so much to go through.

I took the gamble because it was worth it for me. I reckon its a small thing to go through for such a gift in life eventually. Eye on the prize :)

And yes, agreed. Why can't Singapore allow us to do this?!! I'm fighting for that now for us women in Singapore.

ANGELa Grant
253 days ago
Hey there. I was considering getting my eggs freezed but the price is rather expensive. Would u say it was worth it??
I would say yes! If you can afford it. Better to have back up if you really want this in your life. Expensive but worth it.
Winnie
237 days ago
I've always thought that this should be a priority for Singapore. How can society keep encouraging the "empowered" woman and tell her she can do anything - have a career, fly high... and then also criticise her for choosing to delay childbirth? It doesn't make sense to me.


Surely it would be better to make the environment more conducive for having children? It's not like we don't know that eggs drop in quality as time goes by. Some of us actually DO want kids, just that there are so many things that are in the way, like finding a good spouse, and being able to afford a kid!


Overall, do you see more criticism or positivity when you shared your journey? Thanks so much for sharing and for fighting for this!

Fighting!!
237 days ago
I hope this works out for you in the way that you want! What do you think Singaporean women (and the men too actually) can do to fight for something like this?
Seow Lay Hoon
253 days ago
You must be very brave to make that decision!! How do you think other women could "overcome their fears" to freeze their eggs?
By understanding the process in this day and age. Times have changed. We need to do what we got to do. It's 2 weeks out of your life. The only thing that is scary is the cost of the journey! That sucks.
izzy55
253 days ago
That is a brave feat!!!


Was this your last resort? 

How do you know if you are actually not ready? Why not embrace it as it comes?

Such a complicated procedure must be expensive. What were your strongest motivations for doing it?

Mel
251 days ago
it's good to hear from someone who went through this kind of experience and is willing to share - how come 5 eggs is not enough? How much is enough? Seems so scary to go through this. Thanks for sharing!!
The more eggs the better the chance so i had to do it 2 rounds , in total i got 12 eggs. Now with these 12 eggs, we don't know how many can be used or are good eggs until I want to create an embryo. So the more eggs the better the chances. no less than 10, they say. But I had a friend who only had 2 eggs and 1 worked out well :)
Anonymous
246 days ago
How Long did the pain last and what impact did it have on your quality of life?
windy
238 days ago
has egg freezing affected your health negatively? 
emma
238 days ago

Will this process remove ALL of my eggs?

It depends on your situation but you are storing them for further use.
yanxin
238 days ago

Hihi, may i ask what’s the time commitment like? I read that you have to be bed bound for awhile.



My time commitment was 2 weeks with everything.

I don't think you need to be bed bound unless your doctor tells you to. Depends on everyone's situation. My case was a sensitive one so I wasn't allowed to work out in the gym, and just had to relax, but I was not bed bound for 2 weeks! I would go crazy!

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