In my clinical practice as a psychiatrist, I realise that many male patients are concerned about their penis size. In sex therapy sessions, a lot of time is spent on providing correct information and sex education to the couple so as to dispel any myths related to sexuality and sexual behaviour.
A common myth amongst males is that a large penis results in a female partner being orgasmic during intercourse. This is based on the mistaken belief that the vagina is the woman's major sex organ, whereas, in truth, the woman's most sensitive genital organ is her clitoris [1]. Most women prefer indirect clitoral stimulation, whether from a partner's:
- hand,
- tongue or
- penis.
During intercourse, the clitoris is stimulated by the pulling and rubbing action caused by pelvic thrusting -stimulation which is not dependent on penis size. The vagina swells to engage the penis, adjusting to any size of the penis. It takes 10 to 20 minutes of pleasuring (which also includes foreplay) for the vagina to fully expand, so if a couple rushes intimacy, the woman's vagina may not fully expand and the man may mistakenly think his penis is 'too small'.
An important piece of advice here is to enjoy pleasurable touch and genital stimulation before intercourse, as this will enable the woman's vagina to reach full arousal.
References:
1. How the female reproductive system works | girlshealth.gov. Girlshealth.gov. Published 2014. Accessed December 20, 2019.
